|Sterling, Kelly, Kyle & Alaina after screening of Monica & David|
…and Kyle and Alaina and Kelly and Sterling and Kara and Clyde and…
Thursday was the debut of the HBO documentary telling the story of two young adults who fell in love and got married.
What's the big deal? Happens every day, doesn't it?
Not when the bride and groom both have Down syndrome.
So our living room was packed with Ranchers wanting to see Monica and David the moment it came on the air. Their interest ranged from simple curiosity to a desperate desire to do the same.
Though still rare, marriage between people with intellectual disabilities is becoming more common. Parents and professionals are realizing the unfairness of standing in the way of people who may be handicapped in many ways, but not when it comes to forging bonds of love.
Some might even say that's a specialty of people with Down syndrome.
And what better qualification is there? I once heard a good marriage defined as being “a union of two good forgivers.” It reminded me that when our priest was preaching on the need to forgive 70 times seven, Jerry and I agreed that Kelly was the only person in our family capable of doing that.
We focus on the peripheral stuff: Can they cook? Can they keep a clean house? Can they manage their money?
Could you when you first got married? I could barely boil water.
The central issue has got to be this: Can they love over the long haul?
From where I sit, I'd have to give that one an unequivocal yes.